David Chalke is a social analyst who has studied the phenomenon that he refers to as “attachment parenting.” According to Chalke, “little prince or princess syndrome” is more and more visible nowadays, since family sizes have shrunk significantly.
Because of this, parents have to split up their attention and care among fewer children, resulting in spoiling the ones they do have.
“You have a generation of single kids with obsessive parents who spend their whole lives worrying about the color of their stools and whether they’re at the appropriate level for their bassoon lessons,” Chalke shared with The Daily Telegraph.
“It’s very hard to ‘attachment parent’ all 11 kids. You can’t do it. But when you’ve only got the one trophy child there’s a tendency for that to happen and we’re going to see more of it.”
Chalke had a message to give to new parents, and it came in the form of a warning: he explained that these kids end up being “dependent on their parents to do everything,” which causes them to “fail to develop fully as independent human beings” even when they are older.
Warren Cann, Parenting Research Centre chief, explained that “attachment parenting” falsely formulated the concept that one simple mistake could ruin the entire relationship between a parent and their child.
“It takes quite extreme and prolonged disruption to damage attachment,” said Warren.
Tracy Harrison, the founder of Ignite Parenting, elaborated on what her experience as a Sydney-based parenting coach taught her in regard to “attachment parenting,” saying new parents were hooked onto these trends because they were “scared to get things wrong”.
“There’s lots of talk at the moment that we’ve got a generation of kids that aren’t resilient, that aren’t critical thinkers, that don’t have empathy,” she stated.