Every childbirth is unique and has its own story. While some women are have births that go according to plan, there are those who suffered in distress and complications. I discovered after my difficult labor that it doesn’t end at birth and the road to recovery is not easy. I hope these coping mechanisms can help you work out your fears, pain, and guilt.
Recognize your emotions
Your initial response after a difficult childbirth is denial, which is okay as long as you don’t prolong the agony of suppressing your feelings. Give in to your anger, trauma, and worries. Scream and cry out loud. It’s really okay. Remember that acceptance is the key towards healing and it starts with yourself.Most importantly talk to your doctor, don’t wait until the six weeks check up there might be a medical solution for your discomfort. Furthermore, postpartum depression is common after a traumatic birth. If you feel this might be the case, don’t hesitate to talk to a healthcare professional.
Reach out for a support group
Friends and families who knew your tough journey in giving birth won’t expect you to be cheerful. You may find yourself easily irritated and frustrated in taking care of your newborn and you will feel weak and helpless. Redeem your sanity and power by reaching out to these people. They are the solid support system that will stay with you. Schedule babysitting with your mom and siblings as you try to get a good sleep.
Look at what went right
Don’t linger on that defeated moment- not getting the birth that you hoped for. Instead, look at the bright side of the situation. If it’s against your will that you had a CS delivery (because taking the normal route poses greater risks for you and your baby), consider it as a blessing that you and your newborn are perfectly fine. That’s all that matters.