3 Reasons Your Teen is Shutting You Out

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The teenage years can be an extremely difficult time and not for your child, but for you. One minute you and your child are best friends. They are your little sidekicks and tell your everything. Once they go to high school they can become complete strangers. You will move about your house and feel like you are living with a complete stranger. Their lives will be mysteries too tough to crack. Many parents wonder why they are being kept in the dark.

 

  • You Talk Too Much – Think about what you go through when your husband isn’t exactly listening to your problems, but is telling you how to solve your problem. Your teenager doesn’t want to here about solutions, sometimes they just want to be listened to. Just listen to them and maybe when they are done ranting ask them if they want some kind of advice.
  • Dictating Their Situation – When you start taking over the situation, you’re basically telling them that they are incapable of taking care of themselves and can’t handle their own life. Teenagers don’t want to be treated like babies, they want to be adults. Ask them questions instead of telling them to do things. Guide them with wit and guide them to the right answers.
  • You Might Be Interrogating Them – Sometimes when you think your trying to help your child, it feels more like your sitting them down in a small room under a hot lamp and asking a bunch of questions that they aren’t ready to answer. This method will not get you any information concerning your child’s life. They will retreat and with every experience like this they’ll slip further and further away from you. This will not be a useful method. Try instead to talk to them like you would a friend.

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