Mothers have a relationship like no other with their children, but for Jamie, feeling like a parent does not necessarily mean sharing genetics has to be involved. To express her overwhelming emotions, she turned to her blog, Foster the Family, and wrote a letter explaining just that.
After meeting the man she would, later on, call her husband, Jamie brought two kids into the world. However, birthing her oldest children did not feel the same as the day two additional kids arrived on her doorstep. However, it did feel similar to when she married their new daddy. Jamie explained:
“I met him. Then I fell in love with him, knew I would spend the rest of my life with him, and then came the day to make it official. Papers were signed, names were changed, ceremonies were held, but I didn’t love him any more than I had the day before. He was the same. I was the same. Nothing had changed. But everything had. After that day, we belonged to each other, officially, forever.”
Jamie and her husband adopted two daughters, making their loving family one with six members. The occasion touched her so much, she commemorated the very moment with this heartfelt letter. She went on:
“You’re not my foster daughter, I don’t love you ‘like you’re my own. Today you are wholly, completely, for forever my daughter … The falling happened. After bursting into our family, you eased into our lives and hearts. The formalities of our state-regulated, court-appointed, ‘temporary’ relationship faded away. We dropped the ‘foster’ from your title, and you simply became ‘daughter.’
I believe that, as of today, our family is now complete. That the six of us will be at this “family” thing, just us, forever. As far as I can see, our growing family has finished growing. But maybe I’m wrong. Maybe others will join this little unit of ours. But, I know, I know, that no matter what, we are a family now. Forever.
This day, this adoption day, is one of the happiest days of my life. Today, I become your mother. Today, you become my daughter.
Happy Adoption Day, my dear daughter, I love you.