Father Fights For Daughter’s Rights After Being Shamed For Her Outfit


13-year-old Demetra Alarcon was pulled away from class by her teacher, who claimed she must go home and change her outfit on account of it being too revealing. This was not the first time the young Californian teen was told off for her choice of clothing, but this time, her dad had enough of the shaming.


Demetra’s father, Tony, is an independent investment banker who understands the concept of a dress code very well. For that reason exactly, Tony rushed over with a change of clothes the minute he received the unpleasant phone call from his daughter’s school. However, after Demetra changed, her teachers yet again felt that her clothes were inappropriate and distracted the other students.

The teachers argued her previous romper and current shorts did not meet the 4-inch inseam requirement that is required according to the school’s dress code. Appalled with their argument, Tony called out the school for implementing a dress code that was targeting young girls, especially during the scalding summer months.


Speaking to KTVU, Tony explained what had happened after the school’s teaching staff were unhappy with Demetra’s change of clothes:

“I was told the shorts weren’t appropriate. I had to go back into the car, where I luckily had a pair of leggings as a backup.”

Tony also told CBS San Francisco:

“I mean, today it’s 90 degrees outside, and she’s wearing leggings because she doesn’t want to be dress-coded for wearing shorts. And it’s not OK. It needs to change.”


Demetra herself admitted she rarely sees male students being told off for their short shorts, which makes her and her female classmates feel like they are being discriminated against. Deciding to take things into his own hands, Tony used his online social media profile to express his frustration. He wrote:

“Fisher has a dress code policy, which is clothing specific. Most of the clothing mentioned are women’s clothing like halter tops (and) spaghetti straps.”


When he was interviewed and asked why he took this specific matter to heart, Tony replied:

“We have to have dress codes that are fair and reasonable, and don’t cause them emotional issues – cause them to question their bodies or feel like they’re sex symbols at 13 years old. Because they’re not. They’re just kids.”