Meltdowns are terrible, and you can only be a smart, understanding parent when faced with this challenging situation between you and your toddler. Throwing tantrums is a childhood fact that you have to handle with empathy and treat as a chance of educating your tot and yourself too. They are inevitable, but you can lessen the intensity and frequency of your child’s’ tantrums.
Many times a child’s tantrums stem from stress and fatigue. Make sure that your child is well-rested by encouraging daily naps in the afternoon so that he’ll have enough energy for certain activities that await him like outdoor play.
Limit your helicopter parenting
Save your “stops” and “nos” on things that really matter. Allow your toddler to have the freedom to play with his fears and conceal your anxiety of him getting dirty as much as possible. Note that they love the idea of being independent and able to do things on their own.
When your child is in a middle of a tantrum, it is hard not to be carried away by his extreme emotions. Do not join the ride, keep calm and remain in authority. Hold him gently yet firmly to prevent him from getting physical to himself and others. Bring him to a quiet place that will allow him to recover.
Set realistic expectations
Help your child undo his frustrations by telling him what’s allowed and what’s not. This way, he’ll live by the rules and will not insist on what he thinks is right for him. In his desire of climbing a high ladder in a local park, you can tell him “I know you want to climb that high ladder, but it’s not allowed and is dangerous.”
Don’t give in to your child’s demands
It’s easy to give in to your child’s demands especially when he has tantrums in a public place. You are not responsible for what others might think of the situation as your focus is to pacify your child as soon as possible. Calmly tell him “You will not get what you want by screaming and kicking. We can talk about your request when you are calm.”
Give your child a hug
When he has calmed down, discuss what made him mad. Don’t blame him for his misbehavior. A gentle, reassuring hug is all he needs after his outburst. Divert his attention by engaging in a new activity.
Don’t take your child’s misbehavior personally
Don’t blame yourself for the misconduct of your kid. Remember that any child throws tantrums so when he suddenly yelled “I hate you, Mom!,” don’t take it personally. His thoughts at that time are confused hence the hurtful phrase.